It is true that generosity comes from the heart. Today, December 14th, I received the first of my Christmas gifts for 2022. The circumstances under which I received this gift make it one that I will hold in the highest regard for a very long time.
First of all, let me tell you about the giver, Aunty S. Since I met this lady, my neighbour of just over a year ago, apart from my siblings and their wives, my daughters, and my late mum ofcourse, she has been top on the list of people who have intentionally brought hospitality, love and genuine kindness to my life. There’s no way I can list all of the people that God has used to bring ice water for me on this beautiful journey of life (mine). Aunty S lost her husband less than 60 days ago, burial done and dusted in a most elegant and simple manner. This is the woman who gave me my first Christmas gift. Now you know the context, you see why it means a lot to me.
Giving comes from the heart, which is why I mentioned it before. Given her current situation, I don’t see any reason why gifting should even be on her list, and I can guarantee that there are other people on her list. I can tell you that she must have other people on her list. My father always said that “the hand that gives is always on top,” and that it is not about the quantum but rather the thought that matters. I don’t want to spiritualize this topic, but I can tell you for free that someone with a giving heart will never be in a position where they have nothing to give and will always find something to give and they will never lack. Help will always arrive in some form or another.
On the mental health aspect, your brain’s pleasure circuits are activated when you perform acts of charity, and this triggers the production of chemicals that promote “good feelings” such as endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins give you a sensation of bliss, and oxytocin encourages calm and inner peace. Who doesn’t want inner peace?
Another example, is our favorite electrician, who we referred to as Oga Sunny (RiP). If he doesn’t have anything to give you, he might bring you something from the community, such a coconut or a large guava. One more time, this exemplifies the generous nature of the giver.
Giving, particularly to others who might not be able to give back to you readily, is a blessing in and of itself, I would venture to say, both at this season and always. When we cultivate a spirit of generosity, it will be simple for us to decide what possessions, monetary resources, or
portions of our time to part with and what to preserve for ourselves.
Remember, the hand that gives stays on top. Give your way this season and relax with a handful of mental wealth.
Merry 🎄